Today is technically day 29 of my Gratitude + Love Trial (if you don’t know what I’m talking about, take a moment to read the opening post here). I have been slacking these past few days, though, so I can’t really say that I have done it for 29 days in a row. But instead of feeling bad because I didn’t actually complete the trial, I am very grateful for what I have learned and would like to share it with you along with my plans for the near future.
Until now I had always agreed with the theory that it’s you who determines how you feel at every moment, despite your circumstances. The thought that we have a lot of control over how we respond to events outside of ourselves made sense to me. Now I know and feel that it is correct. Although I did not go through any major difficulty in my life this month, there were still good days and bad days. What changed was that I started to understand how a ‘bad day’ could be turned into a ‘good’ one with simple changes in my thoughts, actions and perspective. I learned that it is, indeed, all a matter of ‘vibe’ and that you can change your vibe consciously if you want to.
Resisting your reality is futile and accepting it can be as easy as changing your mindset a little. This became increasingly clear to me as I saw other people complain about things outside of their control while I would simply accept them and laugh about the situation. It can be quite odd how some people really seem to want to be unhappy and are always looking for a reason to complain.
This brings me to my next conclusion: I really love feeling happy, grateful and loved/loving. It might seem redundant to say that – of course I like to be happy! But what I mean is that I finally understood how important happiness is to me and how much I can influence it. Being happy has become my goal. Happiness is no longer something I gladly stumble upon once in a while, I am now going to start creating it consciously.
I also learned a practical tip regarding gratitude that I’d like to share: do it out loud or by writing. Whenever I’m trying to bring myself to a state of gratitude, I repeatedly find that it is easiest to do if I state what I’m grateful for out loud, especially if I engage many of my senses. For example I will sit on my bed and look at my favorite blanket, feel its softness, say that I’m grateful for it, hear myself saying and smile. Just this action can elevate my spirits a lot.
If you usually just think about what you’re grateful for (or don’t do it at all), try counting your blessings out loud and notice what effect it has on you.
January 2013 – The Happiest Month Of My Life?
With all that I have learned in this trial and again inspired by Anna Eichenauer’s “Feeling Good, Feeling Better” Trial, I want to continue focusing on my happiness during the month of January and bring this ‘Love and Gratitude’ thing to a new level.
The concept for what I will be doing – focusing on being as happy as possible – is pretty simple, but putting it into practice might be complicated, in the sense that I will be doing a lot of personal growth work and will have to mold my days so that they work with my new standard of happiness. Although I already know some of the things I’ll be doing to keep me happy both long- and short-term besides changing my mindset, I’m sure that I will have learned a lot more by the end of the 31 days that make the month of January.
It’s one of the beautiful things about the Law of Attraction: you have a vision and know how you could get to where you want to be, but in the end it never happens how you expected it to happen. I believe this is so because, when we are contemplating how to go from one point in life to another, we don’t yet have a clear idea of how it looks like on the other side, since we’ve never been there. So the way there usually ends up being different from what we planned, because we can’t really plan for what we don’t know yet. But I digress.
At the end of the trial, I will tell you all about it. What worked and didn’t work, and why I think it is so. Hopefully I will be able to teach you how to have the best month of your life as well! However it turns out, I’m sure I will have something of value to share. That’s what’s good about trying new things out: you’ll learn something whether it works or not. There’s no failure, only feedback.
How To Change Your Life Course
In case you’ve forgotten or simply didn’t know, the How To Change Your Life Course will start on the 7th of January. I will be participating because it is an awesome opportunity for me to make changes that will benefit my happiness long-term and have some support along the way. I especially recommend the course to people new to personal development, as it will teach you how to start creating the life you desire and take action to bring you closer to what you really want. If you want to know more about it and sign up for it, visit this page – you can thank me later. For a more detailed comment on why I think you’d benefit from taking the course, read my post “How To Start Your Personal Development Journey: Change”.